Sunday, January 27, 2008
I wonder
I've been pondering (to borrow a phrase from my good friend, sisser) about how people can say mean and hateful things about other people and then turn it around to look like they are the victim. I've had my fair share of arguments and yes, people who don't like me, but none of this has overtaken my life. I have friends who are accused of many things that they are innocent of on forums and then the accuser twists their own words to make it look like my friends started the accusations. I think that some people must not have fullfilling lives. I would feel sorry for them if it wasn't so scary.
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There could be a hundred reasons why, but the bottom line is a person's inability to take responsibility for his or her own actions.
Or they could just be evil sociopaths.
I like evil sociopaths and I like the way you think anonymous. Now if only I knew who you were.
You like evil sociopaths, Reina???
Not me.
And, yeah, who are you, anonymous? (Hey, sis, I don't allow anonymous on my blog.)
I meant I like the thought that anonymous had. I guess I should be more specific.
I find evil sociopaths interesting to study. I don't want to run into any in person.
I've changed my settings. Friend or foe, good or bad, comments are welcome as long as they are not vulgar or threatening. I do want to know who is commenting though.
Yeah, I agree.
Maybe anony will come back and tell ya.
Some people appear to be just mean spirited. Some just can't live without drama in their lives. Some are people who can't be happy unless they believe that they are controlling everyone and everything around them. More often than not though, I believe that some people have such a lack of positive things in their life, they create situations where they think they can make a series of events transpire in the manner that they think it should be. When it goes awry as it is wont to do, then they get to be the hero by "fixing" it. However, they seldom if ever can fix the damage that they do.
You are so right, wolf. And after they finish with their drama of the moment, they ignorantly pretend that all is well until they feel like coming back to wreak havoc once more. I really think that these people have a mental illness and unfortunately, we have to suffer because of it.
You describe sociopaths.
I'm sorry, but I need to be anonymous because I've not ever been in the mix of the drama before. I know I'm being a weenie, but I'm not ready to take sides.
Fair enough, anonymous. I personally would like to know who is reading my blog and I think you can send me an email if you would like to identify yourself to me. I won't release the information.
As far as taking sides, I do hope that is not what this blog comes down to. I am making observations about behaviors that I have seen that have hurt me and my friends.
Maybe you should look at both sides? Sometimes looking at situations with an open mind and unbiased opinion makes all the difference in the world. Just a thought.
Having been in the mix, I think I do see both sides. Of course, that automatically makes me biased. I haven't been in the mix on the most recent drama, which does help me keep a more focused, level view. I do feel like certain people continue to distort things they have said and done in the past. That is what I don't understand. They know, or should know, that everyone remembers what they have previously said. That being said, I will be the first to say that at least one of my good friends is certainly giving as good as he takes. He's angry and I totally understand that.
Well I have been watching from both sides of the isle so to speak. It seems to me there are hurt feelings and a whole lot of assumptions. I seen all of you on Talk Amarillo and believe there was a strong community full of different personalities and lasting friendships. It is a shame it came to this.
You are so right about that. There is still a community that has some wonderful friendships formed. And we don't discuss these issues in that forum. If you have an open mind and would like to join some wonderful people, possibly making good friends at the same time, please come check it out.
So these issues are only discussed on blogs and other peoples forums? I believe this is part of the problem. Sometimes we tend to add fuel to a fire without knowing we are doing that or maybe we do knowwhat we are doing and enjoy the drama? The community you speak of is the best one I have seen since the demise of Talk Amarillo. But, I think there are to many people there who would think I am only there as a spy. I have been there before and did not feel welcome. I guess I was guilty by association.
I'm sorry you felt that way. We have become a tight knit community, so that might make a new person feel left out, but I guarantee, we welcome new friends. There are several people who post on the other boards and are members of ours also. Some of these people are some of my dearest friends. I think the closest friendships have formed through our chat room. You could come visit as a guest and see for yourself. I think not discussing these issues there and respecting the right of members to post elsewhere is part of what has held us together.
If you joined the forum openly and honestly wanted to just be a part of the group, we will welcome you with open arms. If you ever feel that we are not welcoming, call us on it. I sometimes can be insensitive to the feelings of others unless they pretty much hit me across the head. So feel free (figuratively speaking of course) to hit me across the head when I am like that.
I blogged on this topic because I have been seeing the drama start up again on another forum and I am loyal enough to my friends that I don't like what they are going through.
I appreciate the offer and I am sure I would be fine in your forum. At this time I am just looking through an open window at the events taking place. I believe everyone involved in this is just as guilty as the other. Hurt feelings and hard heads have only made it escalate. I also think that all of you on both sides of the fence are good people and I hope all differences can be resolved. Myself and another friend have quit posting all together because of all of this. I suggest that everyone should suck it in and grow up. It is almost childish the way I have seen people act. Enough of this for now. Take care and I hope your blog does well.
Thank you and please check back in some. I plan on blogging about many different things...probably alot to do with children since that is my life's calling.
Sista, good post. I also second your invite to anonymous to come chat with us.
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